Work with love
“Work is love made visible. And if you cannot work with love but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work and sit at the gate of the temple and take alms of those who work with joy. For if you bake bread with indifference, you bake a bitter bread that feeds but half man’s hunger. And if you grudge the crushing of the grapes, your grudge distils a poison in the wine. And if you sing though as angels, and love not the singing, you muffle man’s ears to the voices of the day and the voices of the night.”
Book “The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran published at http://www.purposefairy.com
Leap outside your comfort zone
“Don’t think. Get like Nike and just do it! Leap, jump, dive into something that takes you outside your comfort zone, something that scares you a little or a lot. “
Richelle Morgan, http://richellemorganyoga.com
“They sound terrifying if you’ve never done one. They sound amazing if you’re a veteran.”
Express what you are thinking about
Thinking without a action is useless. Act immediately without hesitation and … thinking. It sounds a little bit strange. But if you are focused on a positive action, actually you don’t need a preparation – pointless thinking and time wasting.
Positive thinking is a choice. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. It brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also radiates to people around you, and one way or the other, they are influenced by it. Why is it so much easier to have a negative attitude than a positive one? The situations and challenges we face in the world each day expose us to negative thinking which, in turn, pull us down. When these situations and challenges enter our minds, they generate negative thoughts and feelings. These negative thoughts begin to rule our minds the moment we choose to believe them. The BIG question is ‘How do we develop a satisfactory positive mind?’ The following tips will help you develop one.
BE CONSCIOUS OF YOUR THOUGHTS.
Examine critically what you think about. Our negative actions and words often come from our negative thoughts – what goes into our minds. Like I said at the opening of this article, positive thinking is a choice. We have the ability to choose our thoughts, regardless of our beliefs. As soon as a negative thought comes into our minds, we should purposefully make it a point of duty to replace it with a positive one. This may seem difficult the first time, but with persistence and determination, it will become easy and doable.
WRITE YOUR THOUGHTS IN A THOUGHT DAIRY.
Keep a list of your thoughts, attitudes and actions. Write them down as soon as you notice them. Later, critically analyse them.
CHALLENGE THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.
The purpose of challenging our negative thoughts is to be able to see quickly whether the thoughts are wrong or whether they have some reasonable contents in them. This will enable us to determine the degree of positivity in every negativity. This will also enable us to take appropriate actions. However, we should always make sure that our negative thoughts are genuinely important to achieving your goals.
USE POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS TO COUNTER NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.
This requires constant practice. With constant practice, positive thinking, powered by positive affirmations, will begin to flow from inside us to outside, to give us a positive self image. It will give us sweet satisfaction to face the numerous challenges of life with ease and determination. Take some time to write strong, life-giving, positive affirmation statements, and repeat them to yourself without ceasing. Tell yourself that you’re making progress, even if you are not, and believe in your heart that you are making progress.
SEE THINGS IN A POSITIVE WAY.
Having positive eyes helps us to develop positive thoughts. No matter how bitter or difficult we see things, we should try and see them in positive ways. It becomes easier to do this when we take caution to look for the positive aspect in the situation. If you are able to identify this aspect, you can develop it to your advantage. The fact is every cloud has a silver lining.
KEEP YOUR MIND FOCUSED ON IMPORTANT THINGS.
Set goals and priorities for what you think and do. Have a scale of preference and do important things first. This will help you stay organized and achieve the most important goals first. One advantage of this is that if there is not enough time to do everything, you will have spent the available time on important things. Then you will have no regrets, no blames, no discouragement, no negativity; but satisfactory positivity.
DREAM OF SUCCESS.
Before you start any plan or action, clearly focus your mind on a successful outcome. This will bring you amazing results. Avoid negative reactions and statements. Quickly find adequate solutions to problems or challenges as soon as they occur, rather than reacting negatively to them.
LOOK FOR POSITIVE PEOPLE TO ASSOCIATE WITH.
Be careful the company you keep. It is good to be around positive thinking people who radiate positive attitudes. However, encountering a positive person may seem a difficult task. Not to worry, persistent searching (on the Net and visiting blogs such as The Change Blog) will make you meet people with positive minds. To be candid, there are numerous positive people, only if you will ‘look’ for them.
STOP ASSOCIATING WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE.
Stop hanging around with people who do nothing but utter negative statements. Let negative minded people keep their own company. After all, birds of a feather flock together. You don’t belong there!
DEVELOP NEW HABITS.
Our present attitudes are habits, built from the feedback of parents, friends, society and self, that forms our self-image and our world-image. We can develop new habits and start a new life of positive thinking. Negative attitudes and thinking should be replaced with positive ones. Mind you, old habits die hard. However, be determined. Determination is a requirement for positive thinking.
According to Cicero, “Gratitude is not only the greatest of the virtues but the parent of all others.” Multiple studies have shown the correlation between gratitude and increased wellbeing not only for the individual but for all people involved. The positive psychology movement has embraced these studies and in an effort to increase overall wellbeing, has begun to make an effort to incorporate exercises to increase gratitude into the movement. Although in the past gratitude has been neglected by psychology, in recent years much progress has been made in studying gratitude and its positive effects.
Express gratitude for what you have
People who are thankful for what they have are better able to cope with stress, have more positive emotions, and are better able to reach their goals. The best way to harness the positive power of gratitude is to keep a gratitude journal or list, where you actively write down exactly what you’re grateful for each day. Doing so has been linked to happier moods, greater optimism and even better physical health.
Let go of grudges
Forgiving and forgetting is necessary for your own happiness, as holding a grudge means you’re also holding onto resentment, anger, hurt and other negative emotions that are standing in the way of your own happiness. Letting go of a grudge frees you from negativity and allows more space for positive emotions to fill in.
Treat everyone with kindness
Kindness is not only contagious, it’s also proven to make you happier. When you’re kind to others, your brain produces feel-good hormones and neurotransmitters like serotonin and you’re able to build strong relationships with others, fostering positive feelings all around.
Regard your problems as challenges
Change your internal dialogue so that anytime you have a “problem” you view it as a challenge or a new opportunity to change your life for the better. Eliminate the word “problem” from your mind entirely.
Go ahead and dream big, as you’ll be more likely to accomplish your goals. Rather than limiting yourself, when you dream big you’re opening your mind to a more optimistic, positive state where you have the power to achieve virtually anything you desire.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
If the issue you’re mad about will be irrelevant a year, a month, a week or even a day from now, why sweat it? Happy people know how to let life’s daily irritations roll off their back.
Speak well of others
It may be tempting to gather around the office water cooler to get and give the daily gossip, but talking negatively about others is like taking a bath in negative emotions; your body soaks them up. Instead, make it a point to only say positive, nice words about other people, and you’ll help foster more positive thinking in your own life as well.
Avoid making excuses
It’s easy to blame others for your life’s failures, but doing so means you’re unlikely to rise past them. Happy people take responsibility for their mistakes and missteps, then use the failure as an opportunity to change for the better.
Live in the present
Allow yourself to be immersed in whatever it is you’re doing right now, and take time to really be in the present moment. Avoid replaying past negative events in your head or worrying about the future; just savor what’s going on in your life now.
Wake up at the same time every morning
Getting up at the same time every day (preferably an early time) is deceptively simple. Doing so will help regulate your circadian rhythm so you’ll have an easier time waking and likely feel more energized. Plus, the habit of rising early every day is one shared by many successful people, as it enhances your productivity and focus.
Don’t compare yourself to others
Your life is unique, so don’t measure your own worth by comparing yourself to those around you. Even regarding yourself as better than your peers is detrimental to your happiness, as you’re fostering judgmental feelings and an unhealthy sense of superiority. Measure your own success based on your progress alone, not that of others.
Surround yourself with positive, loving and supportive people
Surround yourself with positive, cheerful, supportive and loving people. People who can lift you up when you are feeling down; people who will turn on the light for you when you are in the dark; people who can see you for what you truly are and who you can truly become. Take the advice of Mark Twain and “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”
Luminita Saviuc, www.purposefairy.com
Realize that you don’t need others’ approval
It’s important to follow your own dreams and desires without letting naysayers stand in your way. It’s fine to seek others’ opinions, but happy people stay true to their own hearts and don’t get bogged down with the need for outside approval.
Take time to listen
Listening helps you soak in the wisdom of others and allows you to quiet your own mind at the same time. Intense listening can help you feel content while helping you gain different perspectives.
Nurture social relationships
Positive social relationships are a key to happiness, so be sure you make time to visit with friends, family and your significant other.
Meditation helps you keep your mind focused, calms your nerves and supports inner peace. Research shows it can even lead to physical changes in your brain that make you happier.
What you eat directly impacts your mood and energy levels in both the short and long term. Whereas eating right can prime your body and brain to be in a focused, happy state, eating processed junk foods will leave you sluggish and prone to chronic disease. My free nutrition plan is an excellent tool to help you choose the best foods for both physical and emotional wellness.
Exercise boosts levels of health-promoting brain chemicals like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine, which may help buffer some of the effects of stress and also relieve some symptoms of depression. Rather than viewing exercise as a medical tool to lose weight, prevent disease, and live longer – all benefits that occur in the future – try viewing exercise as a daily tool to immediately enhance your frame of mind, reduce stress and feel happier.
Clutter has a way of sucking the energy right out of you and replacing it with feelings of chaos. Clutter is an often-unrecognized source of stress that prompts feelings of anxiety, frustration, distraction and even guilt, so give your home and office a clutter makeover, purging it of the excess papers, files, knick knacks and other “stuff” that not only takes up space in your physical environment, but also in your mind.
Every time you lie, your stress levels are likely to increase and your self-esteem will crumble just a little bit more. Plus, if others find out you’re a liar it will damage your personal and professional relationships. Telling the truth, on the other hand, boosts your mental health and allows others to build trust in you.
Establish personal control
Avoid letting other people dictate the way you live. Instead, establish personal control in your life that allows you to fulfill your own goals and dreams, as well as a great sense of personal self-worth.
Accept what cannot be changed
Everything in your life is not going to be perfect, and that’s perfectly all right. Happy people learn to accept injustices and setbacks in their life that they cannot change, and instead put their energy on changing what they can control for the better.