Anxiety prevention: the Wind-mill model

Social Dominance lab has created the Emotion wind-mill model to help visualize and understand anxiety and how to avoid it. Model also gives a clues of influence of other people. How to protect yourself from emotional harm. And how to be socially successful and happy at the end of the day.

Anxiety prevention - emotion wind-mill model

Faster the speed – stress to a particular blade, bigger the imbalance of the emotional system. High speed and balance is possible only with steady wind on all blades and optimal tail work to catch the wind (focus attention).

For example: Eating sweets creates stress on dopamine blade, than to serotonin blade. When the blood sugar drops – to cortisol blade. As stress isn’t simultaneous to all three blades, imbalance occurs. It progresses to anxiety by next attempts to eat more sweets to reduce bad feelings of rising cortisol and so on.

Overall balance of emotion system

  1. [toggle title=’Avoid any mood affecting medication.’] To ensure all systems – neurotransmitters and hormones are working accordingly.[/toggle]
  2. [toggle title=’Keep your blood sugar low (normal).’] This would keep you out of unnecessary spikes of all neurotransmitters and hormones what might lead to physical and mental imbalance.
    1. Avoid any product containing sugar and sugar itself.
    2. Avoid bread and all breadstuffs.
    3. Avoid coffee.
    4. Avoid baked vegetables, potatoes.
    5. Do not eat anything 3 hours before sleep.
    6. Take 16 hour fast during the 24 h cycle.

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  3. [toggle title=’Exercise for physical and mental balance.’] This would optimize cortisol dosage on stress triggers. And also might help to prevent Alzheimer’s Disease.[/toggle]
  4. [toggle title=’Play status games against people and place.’]
    Playing status will allow consciously adjust low or high status attitude to a particular people according to your aims. Also it allows to notice when your autopilot and prevailing behavior takes over. [/toggle]

Emotion chemistry

  1. [toggle title=’Attention focus & trust (oxytocin)’]
    Playing low status role Playing high status role
    [toggle title=’Follow a good leader’]

    1. Father
    2. God
    3. Friend

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    [toggle title=’Spot all bad leaders you are following’]

    1. Change their attitude towards you by getting attention.
    2. Leave them.

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    1. [toggle title=’Be a good leader.’] Be steady and balanced, give guidelines, rewards and attention to your followers.
      1. Expose yourself, be a star, catch the attention
      2. Give guidelines – oxytocin
      3. Create some stress – cortisol
      4. Give rewards – dopamine
      5. Give attention – serotonin to followers

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    2. [toggle title=’Create stress to others.’]Steady, mild and lasting stress would force them to build trust to you if done properly.[/toggle]
    3. [toggle title=’Be still and stand out’] Let make focusing attention on you easier. This would help to build trust to you.[/toggle]
  2. Activity (Cortisol)
    Cortisol is the main steroid hormone. It is scarce resource. You might pull up a car and go without sleep and rest for days. So, saving this rocket fuel is highly significant.
  1. Take the cold shower or swimming. This is the hard way to put your stress reaction back on track.
  • Motivation (Dopamine)
    Aims for balancing dopamine focuses mainly on reducing it by putting limits on binge, obsessive and addictive behavior.
  1. Practise moderation. Avoid binging on anything.
  2. Stick to plan and order
  • Confidence (Serotonin). The aim of serotonin is to get social status. The more attention you get the higher your status feels.
    1. Get the attention.
      1. Automaticity: use colors, symbols, and sounds.
      2. Framing: use tradition, repetition and create scarcity
      3. Disruption: disrupt, like Mr. Bean for example 🙂
        1. surprise,
        2. simplicity,
        3. significance.
      4. Reward: give rewards and prizes, solve people’s short-term problems, boost their dopamine.
      5. Reputation: show reputable leaders as your leaders.
      6. Mystery: Create a little mystery, suspense, and uncertainty.
      7. Acknowledgment: help people to become acknowledged what is opposite to ignorance.
      8. Ignorance. Ignore target people. Don’t do this at home! This is an evil one. Easy and innocent way to completely imbalance someone’s emotion system.
      9. Eye contact: Get the eye contact.
        1. Try to spot opponent first.
        2. Wait until opponent stares away giving you dominant position.
        3. Stare away to expose submission to opponent.
    2. Protect your attention. Do not allow to be plugged to wrong kind of things. This would develop your social status.
  • Growth and expansion (Endorphines)
    1. Take more space. Do not allow others to block you if possible. This would suppress stress reaction and give nice endorphin and testosterone happiness.
    2. Block spatial expansion of others.
    3. Take tall and dominant posture like a tree. Legs together! Wide position of legs exposures your nervousness and imbalance, thus you aren’t dominant.

 

Explanation of Anxiety overcoming tips

We are currently working on explanation for each of the Anxiety prevention tips above. Some of them requires special training and knowledge to apply properly and harmlessly. It’s about making real emotion magic with socially affectable chemistry provided by mother nature.

Suggested books:

  1. Loretta Graziano Breuning “I’mammal
  2. Cesar Millan “Be the Pack Leader
  3. Keith Johnstone “Impro
  4. Ben Parr, “Captivology
  5. . . .

How to Build & Upgrade Your Status

Duane Ludwig Leaving Team Alpha Male
Duane Ludwig Leaving Team Alpha Male.
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The way you project your status has very little to do with how rich your family is or how much of a snob you can manage to act like. In this context, we’re talking about the often-silent social cues we all display that give other people some idea of how to treat or react to us. What we’re not talking about on this list of ways to project a higher status is buying a bunch of the stuff you ordinarily associate as “high status” in the hopes that you’ll be confused for royalty. The goal is for you to be aware of these indicators and to make use of them when it’s appropriate, and to be afforded more dignity and respect in everyday life. Neither are we talking about just being horrible to people in order to display that they’re beneath you — many of these tips are based on social hierarchy, but deliberately trying to look superior to everybody isn’t going to work at all. With these ways to project a higher status, we want you to be able to illustrate your confidence, not to illustrate everyone else’s inadequacy.

Own your personal space

The space around you belongs to you, and you should try your best to indicate that you’re comfortable and at home in it. Open, outward gestures (movements that extend your personal space away from you and claim it as yours) enhance your apparent status. Self-directed, inward gestures diminish it. Generally speaking, allowing people to crowd you and invade your personal space diminishes your apparent status too, except in situations where you can’t possibly avoid it.

Maintain a strong posture

Studies have repeatedly told us that tall people make more money, succeed more often in their careers and are genuinely believed to be better workers than similarly performing shorter people. We are hardwired to look up to the people we literally look up to. You can’t add six inches to your height, and you certainly can’t be caught wearing a pair of those Sarkozy man-heels, but you can at least make the most of what you have by standing straight, with your shoulders and head back. Look at your profile in the mirror frequently enough and you’ll get the hang of maximizing the height you have to work with.

Understand eye contact

We don’t want you to stare down everyone you meet, but one of the most blatant indicators of submissiveness you can give is to immediately break eye contact and look down after meeting someone’s gaze. Even dogs read this behavior as submissive. Holding eye contact, alternatively, puts you on the same standing as the person you’re looking at. Glancing to the side after a while might show disinterest, preoccupation or simply a less noticeable break of eye contact that’s been held awkwardly long.

Always be the best-dressed guy in the room

Often the very first thing people will notice about you is how you’re dressed, and if they immediately disapprove of what they see, none of this other body language is going to be much help. Don’t dress too formally for situations that don’t require it and don’t constantly remind people how much your suits cost; trying too hard is more likely to look artificial than anything else. Just dress well, with a high-quality wardrobe you’ve put some thought into. You don’t need to draw attention to your clothing beyond that. People have already noticed.

Speak clearly and directly

People who display a high status with their speech know their business, and they speak directly about it. They’re not unnecessarily angry or arrogant, but they are direct. When they do use conversational filler like ums and ahs, which they do rarely, they’re deliberate with that fillers, and they use it to draw out a moment before marching right on with words that actually have meaning. Constant inadvertent filler and self-interruptions, much like mumbling, display a lack of certainty and conversational discipline.

Be above conflicts

Even resoundingly winning an argument isn’t always the best way to look like you’re on top of things — sometimes it’s more effective to be above those arguments entirely. This applies universally to loud public arguments or petty fights; engaging in them diminishes you by lowering you to your adversary’s level. You can be politely confrontational with the rest of your body language without being directly argumentative with your speech (a “pardon me?” or tactful disapproval is preferable to acting as though you’ve just heard the world’s most ridiculous comment).

Maintain stillness

Shifting your weight and glancing around too much indicates that you’re uncomfortable in your surroundings, while fidgeting illustrates that you’re somewhere between “nervous” and “terrified.” Picture a guy in a hot, uncomfortable suit, waiting for someone who’s 20 minutes late, and then avoid every single thing that guy does. Touching your hands, touching your face, repeatedly checking the time, or almost anything else that isn’t a deliberate, conscious movement makes you seem uncertain and out of your element.

Direct conversations

Monopolizing conversations is unwise, and acting like a self-involved jerk is absolutely not what we’re recommending. But you also don’t want to be the guy standing around silently because you have nothing to contribute to the current conversation, so any tactful way you can maneuver it back toward a familiar area will definitely help. Furthermore (and we realize this sounds shallow, so don’t abuse it), your apparent status is enhanced if you seem more engaged when speaking than when listening (the implication being that you’re innately an important guy).

Don’t exhibit too many emotions

There’s a midpoint between “expressive” and “coldly robotic” that you should aim for, without going too far. Many expressions that seem like common conversational involvement (like raised eyebrows to show interest or surprise) make you appear more approachable but also smaller and less authoritative. Don’t sacrifice sociability for status, but if you can keep your reactions a little muted, you’ll seem more sophisticated and in charge than a guy who appears astonished by everything he hears.

Don’t be too personal

Treating your friends like vague strangers is certainly not the goal here, but when you are dealing with people you don’t know well, sharing too much personal information and clucking like a hen diminishes you. To a point, defaulting to a shortened nickname does this too (if someone’s calling you Mr. Smith, you’re ceding that authority when you decide to go by “Bob”). Of course you can do these things (they’ll most likely show you’re sociable and friendly), but be aware of their effects, because in a situation where the status you’re projecting is especially important, they will matter.

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