Social Status – 9 tips to raise it

Exposing higher Social Status

  1. Expose confidence. For social status it means the right way to do something is the way you are doing it. Pretend you have no errors. If someone points to an error – ignore it with even more confidence.
  2. Ignore others around you. The highest social status goes for someone who is followed by all others of the group. Leader looks forward beyond the borders or a particular follower. However this is only to fool a strayed sheep. when you are not the leader de facto, but wants to use it’s privileges of high social status person.
  3. Keep your shoulders down and legs together. Eliminate all submissive gestures off of your image.
  4. If you gaze away first – don’t look back, ignore that person to save your status and your life if that’s a polar bear.
  5. Keep your head still when talking. Stillness is the sign of confidence.

Social Status seeker begs for help

Building social status

  1. Don’t share your attention with a attention demander outside your focus and your social group. Even it is a gratitude towards you, it might be just a deliberate emotional attack to make you overconfident and act like fool. Keep focused on your aims no mater what.
  2. Never be defensive or binge on proofing your ideas. Ignore, attack or show your loyalty to opponent.
  3. Create steady pressure to others by taking their attention to you.
  4. Give presents and share attention to your followers and your leader as well. Otherwise they might fall into the ADHD. Blocking attention to followers is widely practiced social tactics in black psychology used by wizards, healers, fortune-tellers and other social magic staff.

Suggested Books for Social status:

  1. Loretta Graziano Breuning “I’mammal“ why your brain links status and happiness.
  2. Cesar Millan “Be the Pack Leader
  3. Keith Johnstone “Impro – improvisation and the theatre“

How to Build & Upgrade Your Status

Duane Ludwig Leaving Team Alpha Male
Duane Ludwig Leaving Team Alpha Male.
Mark Humphrey/Associated Press

The way you project your status has very little to do with how rich your family is or how much of a snob you can manage to act like. In this context, we’re talking about the often-silent social cues we all display that give other people some idea of how to treat or react to us. What we’re not talking about on this list of ways to project a higher status is buying a bunch of the stuff you ordinarily associate as “high status” in the hopes that you’ll be confused for royalty. The goal is for you to be aware of these indicators and to make use of them when it’s appropriate, and to be afforded more dignity and respect in everyday life. Neither are we talking about just being horrible to people in order to display that they’re beneath you — many of these tips are based on social hierarchy, but deliberately trying to look superior to everybody isn’t going to work at all. With these ways to project a higher status, we want you to be able to illustrate your confidence, not to illustrate everyone else’s inadequacy.

Own your personal space

The space around you belongs to you, and you should try your best to indicate that you’re comfortable and at home in it. Open, outward gestures (movements that extend your personal space away from you and claim it as yours) enhance your apparent status. Self-directed, inward gestures diminish it. Generally speaking, allowing people to crowd you and invade your personal space diminishes your apparent status too, except in situations where you can’t possibly avoid it.

Maintain a strong posture

Studies have repeatedly told us that tall people make more money, succeed more often in their careers and are genuinely believed to be better workers than similarly performing shorter people. We are hardwired to look up to the people we literally look up to. You can’t add six inches to your height, and you certainly can’t be caught wearing a pair of those Sarkozy man-heels, but you can at least make the most of what you have by standing straight, with your shoulders and head back. Look at your profile in the mirror frequently enough and you’ll get the hang of maximizing the height you have to work with.

Understand eye contact

We don’t want you to stare down everyone you meet, but one of the most blatant indicators of submissiveness you can give is to immediately break eye contact and look down after meeting someone’s gaze. Even dogs read this behavior as submissive. Holding eye contact, alternatively, puts you on the same standing as the person you’re looking at. Glancing to the side after a while might show disinterest, preoccupation or simply a less noticeable break of eye contact that’s been held awkwardly long.

Always be the best-dressed guy in the room

Often the very first thing people will notice about you is how you’re dressed, and if they immediately disapprove of what they see, none of this other body language is going to be much help. Don’t dress too formally for situations that don’t require it and don’t constantly remind people how much your suits cost; trying too hard is more likely to look artificial than anything else. Just dress well, with a high-quality wardrobe you’ve put some thought into. You don’t need to draw attention to your clothing beyond that. People have already noticed.

Speak clearly and directly

People who display a high status with their speech know their business, and they speak directly about it. They’re not unnecessarily angry or arrogant, but they are direct. When they do use conversational filler like ums and ahs, which they do rarely, they’re deliberate with that fillers, and they use it to draw out a moment before marching right on with words that actually have meaning. Constant inadvertent filler and self-interruptions, much like mumbling, display a lack of certainty and conversational discipline.

Be above conflicts

Even resoundingly winning an argument isn’t always the best way to look like you’re on top of things — sometimes it’s more effective to be above those arguments entirely. This applies universally to loud public arguments or petty fights; engaging in them diminishes you by lowering you to your adversary’s level. You can be politely confrontational with the rest of your body language without being directly argumentative with your speech (a “pardon me?” or tactful disapproval is preferable to acting as though you’ve just heard the world’s most ridiculous comment).

Maintain stillness

Shifting your weight and glancing around too much indicates that you’re uncomfortable in your surroundings, while fidgeting illustrates that you’re somewhere between “nervous” and “terrified.” Picture a guy in a hot, uncomfortable suit, waiting for someone who’s 20 minutes late, and then avoid every single thing that guy does. Touching your hands, touching your face, repeatedly checking the time, or almost anything else that isn’t a deliberate, conscious movement makes you seem uncertain and out of your element.

Direct conversations

Monopolizing conversations is unwise, and acting like a self-involved jerk is absolutely not what we’re recommending. But you also don’t want to be the guy standing around silently because you have nothing to contribute to the current conversation, so any tactful way you can maneuver it back toward a familiar area will definitely help. Furthermore (and we realize this sounds shallow, so don’t abuse it), your apparent status is enhanced if you seem more engaged when speaking than when listening (the implication being that you’re innately an important guy).

Don’t exhibit too many emotions

There’s a midpoint between “expressive” and “coldly robotic” that you should aim for, without going too far. Many expressions that seem like common conversational involvement (like raised eyebrows to show interest or surprise) make you appear more approachable but also smaller and less authoritative. Don’t sacrifice sociability for status, but if you can keep your reactions a little muted, you’ll seem more sophisticated and in charge than a guy who appears astonished by everything he hears.

Don’t be too personal

Treating your friends like vague strangers is certainly not the goal here, but when you are dealing with people you don’t know well, sharing too much personal information and clucking like a hen diminishes you. To a point, defaulting to a shortened nickname does this too (if someone’s calling you Mr. Smith, you’re ceding that authority when you decide to go by “Bob”). Of course you can do these things (they’ll most likely show you’re sociable and friendly), but be aware of their effects, because in a situation where the status you’re projecting is especially important, they will matter.

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Women: Build Social Status in 7 Simple Steps

Dominance-girl-and-carSocial status is synonymous with money.

The clothes you wear, the car you drive and even the job you have help form your perceived social status. Perhaps you’ve heard the urban legend about the bum collecting coins from pedestrians, but has a mansion in Beverly Hills. Because the bum is seen in a submissive state, begging for money, people immediately assume that the bum is lower class. Anyone who understands the power of perception can use it to their advantage and increase their social status without having more money.

1. Upgrade your footwear

Dating expert Jeremy Hamburgh once said, “When women dress stylishly for a? situation, they feel bulletproof.” To feel bulletproof is to have high self-esteem, and high self-esteem can be synonymous with financial security and an elevated social status. Other people notice the positive energy surrounding confident women, and your peers will feed off that energy when in your company. You don’t have to break the bank when dressing stylishly. Start with a stylish pair of boots. Many boot styles are multi-seasonal and one good pair will last years. You can find stylish inexpensive cowboy boots atSheplers or search for valid coupon codes to other online retailers. Cost = < $100

2. Style your hair actually has a definition for the phrase “hair confidence:” higher self-esteem brought on by a stylish new hair cut. Again, high self-esteem equals elevated social status. You must remember that social status is an illusion. New acquaintances do not know your financial situation or your educational background. They feed off your self-esteem to judge your position on the social totem pole. Find a friend who will style your hair for free and purchase products over-the-counter rather than from the salon. Optionally, if there is a cosmetic school nearby, you can find students to style your hair for cheap simply because they need the experience. By styling your hair and upgrading your shoes, you can raise your perceived social status in a weekend. Cost = < $50

3. Develop a passion for a cause or hobby

Now that you look the part, you must play the part. Spend some time with your own thoughts and define what matters most to you. -Do you have a strong passion for teen abstinence? -Do you love to read, write or paint? -Are you dedicated to knitting? The question of what matters most to you must be answered in order to set priorities and accomplish goals. As an example, I know a woman named “Joyce” who is absolutely obsessed with cleaning the house. She doesn’t necessarily like cleaning the house, but she hates dirt more, so she cleans all the time. Joyce also likes making little gift baskets that are unique to each recipient. Her true passion is being creative. It doesn’t matter to her what platform she uses to express her creativity, she just loves to experiment with colors and fabrics and textures to create something beautiful. The problem is that she claims not to have enough time to create her baskets-or anything else for that matter-yet, every time I go over to her apartment she is cleaning. During the last conversation I had with Joyce, I told her that she needed to decide what was more important to her: making baskets or cleaning the house. After a lengthy, hard argument, Joyce finally admitted that while she certainly valued a clean house, being creative gave her more joy. At times she even used the chore of house cleaning as a means of expressing her creativity by rearranging furniture. For now Joyce is committed to making her baskets and networking with local businesses for material and ideas. But she’s free to change her mind at any time. And if her custom basket business becomes a success, she could set her own hours and still maintain a clean house. Cost = $0

4. Join trade associations

After defining what you enjoy about life, look for trade or non-profit organizations that support your passion and engage with their community of like-minded people. It’s important to remember that your friends with absolutely no interest in your passions will always overlook your brilliance. You will never become known as the top archeologist in the nation, if you don’t network with other archeologists. You may have to spend a little money to join an official association, but the networking and resources that you are privy to can be well worth it. The local chapters of some associations have monthly networking mixers which are good for finding collaborators. Your goal is to get to know the most prominent figure associated with your passion and build a strong professional relationship. Through strategic alliances you will gain social status within your field. Cost = < $150 per year

5. Start a hobby group

Don’t just rely on others to initiate action. In addition to joining a group or two, start one of your own. Start an online group with the goal of growing it into an offline social gathering. Stay abreast of the concerns of others in your field and be open to questions from new people that share your same passion. Cost = $0

6. Develop a seal of approval

Create a certificate or award and give it to others you consider to be leaders or active participants in your field. Be sure to give some awards locally as well as nationally. Acknowledging industry players in your geographical region will establish local credibility. Publicize it heavily with press releases and an inexpensive ceremony. Cost = nominal

7. Start a blog

Now that you’re active and engaging with society, educate the world on your passion. Keep the drive alive and let everyone know by writing about it. There are free blogging options as well as low-cost monthly hosting plans. Cost = free to < $100 per year Raising your social status-or social influence-begins with dressing for the part. Remember, unless you’re trying to be a runway model, you don’t have to wear expensive name brand fashions. Then, strategically engage the most influential social circles. Take every step of this action plan seriously, and make sure to express that seriousness when you network with others. Perseverance will prevail and one day you will look back on all this is and remember that it started with a new pair of boots.

February 11, 2011 by Penny Ray on